The Brutal Truth About Worth & Willingness.
Transform Your Gaps Into Your Greatest Advantages
Watch my testimony and you’ll learn something vital: I haven’t always been worthy of the roles I was eager to fill.
“Why would you put that on your website?”
I’m not here to hide behind false bravado. I’m an authentic, high-integrity man who calls things as they are. My past mistakes? They’ve become my secret weapons.
The Risk of Willingness Outweighing Worth
For half my career in law enforcement, I ran ballistic shields for an entry team. When you do a job like that you get asked this question a lot.
“Can I work with you guys?”
What they really meant was, “Can I make entry with you guys?”
I get it. I was once the guy with the desire but not the skills. Fortunately, I had mentors who wouldn’t let me risk my life, or theirs, until my worth caught up to my ambition. Their tough love potentially is the reason I’ve survived the occupation.
The Reality Check: Are You Ready?
When someone asked to work with the team, I didn’t just say yes. I asked questions that would assess their humility, worth and willingness.
• Do you practice reloads?
• Have you done tactical progression training?
• How often are you at the range?
• What’s your real-world experience?
• What’s your biggest weakness?
Typically, there are three outcomes:
1. Awareness & Action: You recognize areas to improve and commit to change.
2. Honest Realization: You discover you might not truly want what you asked for. This often leads to relief.
3. Defensiveness & Denial: You resist the truth, letting your ego get in the way. You lie about your preparedness and oversell minimal accomplishments.
For those in the third group, I don’t pull any punches. If your ego overshadows your capability, expect a blunt reality check because in my world, unchecked ego can be deadly.
When I had a person in the third group who wanted in but was unwilling to take accountability for their own worthiness
I’d offer up the following response. “I’ll tell you what I’ll give you my wife’s phone number and when you call her I want you to let her know that your ego is so is painful and the only way to relieve it is by allowing you, undeservingly and under prepared, to be part of our team for just one day so that you can have some relief and have a cool story to tell. If she says yes, follow up by asking her if she would do you the honor of allowing you to hand her the flag of her deceased husband if during that mission your inexperience were to get him killed.”
I recognize the potential for being seen as arrogant in that response but let’s really break it down. Am I wrong? Person 3 has said “I want something for nothing no matter the cost for everybody else.” Only they aren't acknowledging that as true because they seek to avoid the pain of NOT BEING ENOUGH.
“THE FEAR OF NOT BEING ENOUGH IS WHAT CAUSES US TO AVOID ACCOUNTABILITY FOR OUR WORTH.”
Ask Yourself:
- In your current arenas, does your worth outshine your willingness?
- Are your results a reflection of a misalignment between your skills and your ambition? Your worth and your willingness?
- Is your contribution truly what you want it to be?
Your Next Step: Elevate Your Worth
If these questions leave you uneasy, it’s time for a radical change. Imagine a life where your worth not only matches but exceeds your willingness.A life where every commitment is met with the skills and preparation to back it up.
Ready to Reclaim Your True Potential?
Let me help you identify what needs to change and show you how to bridge that gap. It’s time to move past mere ambition and step into a role where you’re truly prepared for success.
Transform Your Gaps Into Your Greatest Advantages
Watch my testimony and you’ll learn something vital: I haven’t always been worthy of the roles I was eager to fill.
“Why would you put that on your website?”
I’m not here to hide behind false bravado. I’m an authentic, high-integrity man who calls things as they are. My past mistakes? They’ve become my secret weapons.
The Risk of Willingness Outweighing Worth
For half my career in law enforcement, I ran ballistic shields for an entry team. When you do a job like that you get asked this question a lot.
“Can I work with you guys?”
What they really meant was, “Can I make entry with you guys?”
I get it. I was once the guy with the desire but not the skills. Fortunately, I had mentors who wouldn’t let me risk my life, or theirs, until my worth caught up to my ambition. Their tough love potentially is the reason I’ve survived the occupation.
The Reality Check: Are You Ready?
When someone asked to work with the team, I didn’t just say yes. I asked questions that would assess their humility, worth and willingness.
• Do you practice reloads?
• Have you done tactical progression training?
• How often are you at the range?
• What’s your real-world experience?
• What’s your biggest weakness?
Typically, there are three outcomes:
1. Awareness & Action: You recognize areas to improve and commit to change.
2. Honest Realization: You discover you might not truly want what you asked for. This often leads to relief.
3. Defensiveness & Denial: You resist the truth, letting your ego get in the way. You lie about your preparedness and oversell minimal accomplishments.
For those in the third group, I don’t pull any punches. If your ego overshadows your capability, expect a blunt reality check because in my world, unchecked ego can be deadly.
When I had a person in the third group who wanted in but was unwilling to take accountability for their own worthiness
I’d offer up the following response. “I’ll tell you what I’ll give you my wife’s phone number and when you call her I want you to let her know that your ego is so is painful and the only way to relieve it is by allowing you, undeservingly and under prepared, to be part of our team for just one day so that you can have some relief and have a cool story to tell. If she says yes, follow up by asking her if she would do you the honor of allowing you to hand her the flag of her deceased husband if during that mission your inexperience were to get him killed.”
I recognize the potential for being seen as arrogant in that response but let’s really break it down. Am I wrong? Person 3 has said “I want something for nothing no matter the cost for everybody else.” Only they aren't acknowledging that as true because they seek to avoid the pain of NOT BEING ENOUGH.
“THE FEAR OF NOT BEING ENOUGH IS WHAT CAUSES US TO AVOID ACCOUNTABILITY FOR OUR WORTH.”
Ask Yourself:
- In your current arenas, does your worth outshine your willingness?
- Are your results a reflection of a misalignment between your skills and your ambition? Your worth and your willingness?
- Is your contribution truly what you want it to be?
Your Next Step: Elevate Your Worth
If these questions leave you uneasy, it’s time for a radical change. Imagine a life where your worth not only matches but exceeds your willingness.A life where every commitment is met with the skills and preparation to back it up.
Ready to Reclaim Your True Potential?
Let me help you identify what needs to change and show you how to bridge that gap. It’s time to move past mere ambition and step into a role where you’re truly prepared for success.
